Divorce can be challenging for kids to understand or accept

| Sep 7, 2018 | Divorce

When adults get divorced, they are not the only ones impacted by the family change. The children are also impacted in a profound way. However, a few tips may help divorcing parents in Massachusetts to make the transition that comes with divorce much easier for their children.

First, although infants may not understand divorce, they do understand when changes happen. Therefore, during the divorce process, infants may cry excessively, experience bowel disturbances or have eating problems. Meanwhile, toddlers tend to understand more and thus may become anxious or clingy, or have trouble sleeping.

Young children, however, may blame themselves when it comes to their parents’ divorce. For this reason, it is critical that divorcing parents reassure their children that they are not at fault, and demonstrate their love for them both physically and verbally. With school-age children, parents would be wise to follow through with any promises made to them, as a young child is very sensitive to any promises that are made to him or her. Finally, older children, such as teenagers, may not be quick to accept the change that comes with divorce. However, parents can help them by supporting them, loving them and keeping them from feeling as though they are caught in the middle.

Dealing with divorce can be emotionally challenging, especially for those with minor children. However, in addition to promoting positive communication with the children, parents can help the situation by promoting positive communication between themselves as well. If they can resolve their child custody and other divorce issues at the negotiation table, for instance, they can avoid further court intrusion in Massachusetts.